Hitting rock bottom is a good thing....

Has anyone seen the movie Bridesmaids? well there is a saying in that movie that when you hit rock bottom it’s a good thing because there’s no where else to go but up. I never thought of it that way but, having experienced it, it is true. 

It’s far from easy to go down that hill. But you go so fast. It’s always one thing after another and you feel yourself loosing control. Not sure what to do next. In these situations you have to be strong. You have to let go and let it happen. If you can’t change it, don’t try it’ll make it worse. Sometimes all we have to do is sit back and ride.

About 2 years ago I found out I was pregnant with my second child and couldn’t be more happy. I was also going through a divorce at the same time. I had to work so much to pay for my lawyer and doctors appointments that I was always so worn out. On top of that my boyfriend and I were having our own issues. Everything was always a fight and me being pregnant I was super emotional and he wasn’t understanding. 

We took time apart which caused him to be a little emotional himself. We ended up working things out but not before he lost his job. So I had to be the one who went to work and he watched all of the kids. Since he lost his job he was kind of careless with the kids. I had to quit my job to take care of everything at home because it was to overwhelming for him. 

Are you with me so far? Me and my man both had no jobs, I was pregnant and we had 4 other children to care for. This was 100% my rock bottom. We had to get help from the state while he looked for a job. Couldn’t afford to pay for my car so had to return it and we had to switch cell phones to straight talk since we couldn’t afford our service either. Not only were bills a problem but our relationship became rocky again. 

When things were good they were good, but when they were bad.....they were bad. I almost had a miscarriage from all the stress, anxiety and panic attacks our fighting caused. He was suffering from being an alcoholic. Regardless of the details things were not easy. 

I want to speed things up to today. We are doing great. My man has got help and is on a good path now. He has a job he loves that pays him good. Our kids are growing up so fast and are happy. We are no longer in a struggle. We are in a good place and going through what we went through has made us a better, stronger couple. 

Sometimes love really is all you need. No it can’t pay the bills, but it can make you feel like everything will be ok.